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[quote=Anonymous]After many years of trying to make a flawed marriage work, I'm nearing the end of my rope.  I've tried to talk with H about divorce many times, but he refuses, saying he does not believe in divorce and that if I want to "abandon" the kids that's up to me.  (He's an atheist who doesn't believe in therapy, either, and has also refused to talk to a mediator about how to achieve an amicable separation.). What are my options here?  It seems like I would have to go out and get an apartment (and hope I could pass whatever credit test without his assistance) then wait a year for the divorce to be able to split marital assets, house etc. Does one usually get a furnished apartment?  Or move furniture into a rental (which would be weird for the kids, to have the house half empty).   I'm sure there would be a huge fight about taking the kids to an apartment--not that I'm even sure I'd want to, as that would be weird and disorienting for them--and I'm not sure how to avoid a fight in front of the kids about that.  Plus I am sure he will bad talk me to the kids (elementary age) telling them that I chose to abandon them.

I know how a divorce is supposed to happe when everyone acts like adults, but not sure how it can or would play out on this situation.

He has a crappy temper, and is the kind of person to respond to any perceived offense with a nuclear reaction, so I'm trying to avoid poking the beast too much.[/quote]

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