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[quote=Anonymous]This is a spin off from the post about a difficult SIL.  It made me think maybe DCUM is crafty enough to come up with something workable in my situation.

I have one sibling, a sweet DB.  His wife, my SIL, is very difficult and for years, my DH and I walked on eggshells around her--but she'd still get mad--she'd FIND something to irritate her.

Anyways, we kept getting together for the sake of the kids, to keep the cousin interaction going.  My DDs are 13.5 and 11.5; DB's son is 13 and DD who we will call Larla, is 10.5.

At one point DH and SIL got into a spat and years later, we are sort-of recovered...DB and I tend to find ways to do something with the kids when my DH is traveling or his DW is out of town.

But here is the issue:  Larla is a mini-version of her mother--completely indulged and entitled, sour and complains whenever she doesn't get her way.  I was hoping it was a stage, but it's been going on for years.

E.g. When they were younger she yelled at my kids "There is no Santa Claus, it's just your parents pretending!" in front of all of us.  I mean she is really a piece of work.  Last time she was over, she was so snarky to my DB in my house, I reflexively almost said, "Hey, don't talk to your father like that." (but I didn't, because if she told her mom I said that, it  would be WWIII)

Every time we get together, Larla causes conflict.  Another example:  The kids were playing in the next room.  My elder DD came into the room with us, started reading a book, slouched in a chair.  20 min later Larla comes in with a story about how awful DD is being, how she's being mean, etc....she's going on and doesn't notice DD is right there, reading a book.  Just a huge lie!

The last three times we've gotten together, my brother and I have truncated the visit after Larla has made it un-fun. ("Ok, time to go.")

So. I'm sort of done with this kid.  My kids get along with the boy.  Is there any constructive way to get the boy over here without Larla?  I can't think of any way.  Maybe you can, DCUM?[/quote]

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