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[quote=Anonymous]OP we are white and DD is adopted and AA. Her birth mother identifies as Muslim but we are raising DD as an Episcopalian. I dont think she is missing out on any heritage or culture she knows nothing about.
On that front I think you are fine.

Having said that, when we went for our first adoption meeting we had to play a game where we had diff colored beads and a cup. The adoption counselor person asked us a bunch of questions and we had to put the coralating bead in the cup. Example questions:
what color is your doctor
what color is your dentist
what color is your hair stylist
what color are 'most' of the people in your neighborhood
what color are 'most' of the people at your place of worship
what color were 'most' of the people in your elem and high school

There were about 10 questions, I cant remember all the others. I am sad to say I had 2 black beads and the other 8 were white.
I wasnt as diverse as I thought I was and how my kid would see her world. 
I made a conscious effort to change that, We have a black female doctor, She went to a predominantly black daycare and her public school is majority black. her swimming teacher is black. I now seek out these things for our family and for her.

If you decide to adopt a black child you may need to take a hard look at your own color 'beads" and see if you would be willing to change those if you need to.[/quote]

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