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[quote=Anonymous]I'm trying to not get into every detail as this was s bit complicated but basically my stepmother of 25+ years (I am 35) and i were having a heart to heart chat last week which we often do at our family's summer cottage and she insinuated that my parents divorce (over 30 years+ ago) was due to my mother cheating on my father with my now (30 year+) stepfather.  This is not a topic I wish to discuss and why would anyone especially after so much time has passed.  It is also not the first time she has tried to say something similar however this time I bit.  My understanding has always been that the divorced was caused by my dad cheating on my mom, with someone other than my stepmother who he met a few years later.  My mother has told me this when I was an adult and asked her in a calm normal mother daughter conversation.  I believe her.  All other actions in my life lead me to believe my mother.  Since this obnoxious conversation which went too far with me defending my mom and basically saying that if she is basing all of her information on what my Dad told her, I still believe my mom.  Well the next day she told my Dad that I said he was a cheat and a liar and started a huge family fight.  He came to my house a few days later and confronted me yelling at me and saying terrible things about my mom and details he says about how they broke up.  I still believe my mom who btw I have not engaged in any of this as it's a terrible topic and not something anyone should be talking about.  Yesterday again at the cottage with the whole family there my step mother was being very rude to me so I said what is the problem and she blew up and now is lying about how this topic came up and blaming me to my father for everything and claiming I am lying about her bringing it up.  It literally makes no sense and is shocking!  When I of course defended myself she told me to leave the cottage.  So I packed up my kids and left what has been my summer home from before my parents divorce.

I am beyond hurt, confused, furious, disgusted and in shock.

I dont know where to go from here but my father and she are the sort of people who cut their siblings and in my father's case his own father out of there lives.  I could be facing that and I am heart broken for me but also for my children who love them.

Need some objective help on how and if to try and repair this.

thanks in advance
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