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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The sooner the better. We moved when I was in 7th grade and it was just awful.[/quote]

I moved both in 6th grade and then 8th grade and then again during high school. I have so much social anxiety now it's hard to function. [/quote]

Me too on all counts.  Do you think your anxiety is caused by the moving around and failing to establish deep friendships?  Is this a common cause?[/quote]

PP, here, I also moved in 3rd grade and 4th grade. So yes, I completely think my social anxiety and my need to not be in crowds of people or meet new people is a sort of defense mechanism that is because of moving so much. Now that I'm older I realize how damaging the moves were to my ability to blend in and make/keep friends. I get along well with people at work, however I really have incredible anxiety going into meetings or new places. With all of the reports that have been released on the past month discussing how terrible it is to move children around, there is no doubt in my mind it had a horrible affect on me.[/quote]

I don't discount your experience, but it is not universal.  I know quite a few military kids who say they are more outgoing and good at making new friends because they moved a lot.  I think it depends on the kid's underlying personality.  Also, that European study that showed bad outcomes for kids that moved didn't control for other factors that caused the moves -- death, divorce, economic insecurity, etc, which seems like a major flaw to me.  If they'd done a study of kids in otherwise stable families who moved, I'd take it more seriously.[/quote]

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