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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I have been married for 9 years. We just got our marriage on track after a rough patch.  
Our sex life is phenomenal and we are intimate 3-4 times per week.  He has always been extremely attracted to me (and other women). Let's just say that he "responds" very favorably when we are together intimately. As we've grown closer, DH confided 2 things to me that I didn't know about him.
He was raped as a child and was involved in a sexual relationship with an older man when he was 20 (almost 25 years ago).  
My DH has always been an Alpha and I am submissive.  That is our dynamic and it works for us.  He said that when it happened, it was really confusing to him and that he let it continue for a few months because the man took control.  He said that it was just something different, mentally and physically.
Eventually, DH ended it.  He wasn't comfortable with it any longer.  He says that he isn't attracted to men at all and hasn't had any experiences since that one.  Honestly, I'm not that upset about it.  Sexuality, to me, isn't black or white. It's a very fluid thing.  
I'm more upset about the sexual abuse and want him to seek therapy to deal with that trauma.
I guess I'm more looking for advice or BTDT experiences from others. 
Please don't be mean or judgemental.[/quote]

I think that you ARE upset about it, given the title of your thread is "DH had gay sex." If you were concerned that he was sexually abused, the title would've been "DH was sexually abused."

Please ask your husband how you can support him, and then do what he asks. If you're not able to make peace with it, seek counseling on your own. [/quote]

+1!!!

Also, it seems an invasion of his privacy to post on this board?!! I know it's anonymous but still! if he's fine and you're apparently fine then...[/quote]

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