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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will give you a little perspective.

I have been the ex that remained friends with the ex-boyfriend years after we have dated. Our relationship ended after he decided to cheat on me with his ex-girlfriend. Sometimes I question why we remain friends. I honestly truly love him as he has good heart and we are extremely compatible, but I could never see myself marrying him because he cheated. So we will not be together. Whenever he starts a new relationship with someone or ends a relationship, he always tries to come back to me.  He recently moved out after living with me for a year and recently started dating this new girl (or old girl -They dated before. He was also dating her when we began dating). The entire beginning of their dating.... he kept asking would I accept him back, and I repeatedy told him no. After declining his relationship requests, he would repeatedly ask me for sex because she had a supposed one year of abstaining rule. Well, the one year rule went out the window very quickly and now he is back here asking me for sex because he isnt satisfied in the bedroom with her and she refuses to give head until marriage. I will say I did sleep with him after one request, but I didn't know at that time they had officially begun a relationship and started sleeping together. Even still, he continued to ask for sex. He only just stopped because I told him 1. I am not some affair partner to be used because he isnt being satisfied and that is something that he needs to communiate with her. 2. I told him that his friendship means alot, and I would rather have a good friend over a fuck buddy. And true friends respect one another's relationships.  He still wanted to sleep with me  3. I also told him if he wanted to start his relationship on a good foundation, to cut all the bullshit and lying because if the tables were turned and she was the one doing the crap, he would be upset. He finally got that.

The whole point of this long post is sometimes people can remain friends with an ex and sometimes they cannot. The guy I was am friends with obviously has ex issues, but that isnt everyone. Just trust your inner gut. [/quote]

I'm not sure I totally follow this, but it doesn't sound like you and your ex are friends at all. It sounds like he keeps using you and you give in to him when you feel like it and you both say that you are "exes who remained friends" [/quote]

I agree. You were/are being used and you may not be aware he is taking advantage of you. That's not a friend at all. Cut him off hunny he knows your weak spot. Not one single ex have audacity to ask me for sex. But then again when I break up with a guy I block all forms of contact and pretend their dead. A couple of exes have tried to reach out to me after years, I get so annoyed and just block them. You only get  one chance with me and you screwed it up and that's it we are done for life. No second chances. [/quote]

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