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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have you considered that your husband may have ADHD as well? Even if he didn't, you guys need to figure out a system that works for everyone. It needn't be all YOUR way, but everyone needs to be bought in.

Agree with the 2 PPs advice re a family meeting and also getting some professional help. ALso make liberal use of electronic reminders that go to you and your spouse both, not just the one in charge a particular morning.

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Good question but honestly, I think if either one of us has ADHD it's me.  I recognize my tendencies.  I have all kinds of systems set up to deal with it.  It's why I'm a stickler for routine.  Without it I am lost, a mess, anxious.  Days like today make me want to fucking scream.  Honestly, I think DH is lazy.  "It's summer."  "Can't we just relax a bit?"  "Does everything have to be so regimented?"  "This is not how summers were for me as a kid."  Guess what, bub?  It's not 19 fucking 84.  Our lives are vastly different than our parents'.  If you'd like to hustle and get a job that doubles your salary so I can stay home then yeah, we can fucking relax.  Otherwise, no.  It's like, do you think this is GOOD for our kid?  Does he look fucking relaxed to you while he's hysterically crying and running away from his camp counselors?

And yes, you're right, it doesn't all have to be my way, but I think the reality is if I don't put my foot down and insist that we're just fucking doing it my way, it won't get done.  And the chaos will continue.  And my resentment will grow.  I will try to negotiate a plan with his input, but I'm not super optimistic.  [/quote]

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