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[quote=Anonymous]So at our school, we were trying to coordinate with other families over summer camp, and we realized in our DD class, we are the only family with both parents WOH without local grandparents/aunts/uncles to share the load.

Majority seems most of the moms end up with a part--time job, or with significant telework arrangements.

We know one family with both parents working, but their grandparents pickup their kids everyday.

We both work full-time (40+ hours) with 30-45 minute commutes, and telework is not an option.  We often  have to catch up on email or be on-call at night.

We split shift, so we can get home not TOO late, and kids can do some afterschool activities, but getting dinner on the table and keeping house tidy is impossible.  We had a cleaner for awhile, but it didn't help b/c it was the daily explosion of dishes, pots, pans and kids afterschool detritus that is the real issue.  We need to get the kids to be more responsible for chores, we own, that but since as soon as we get home we trying to get dinner on the table and homework done there isn't much time for hand on parenting and enforcing chores.  We consider dropping afterschool activities, but our kids natural instinct is not to be physical (in SACC they hang out inside doing crafts), so this is important to encouraging physical fitness. No backyard so can't just kick them out back while I make dinner, and not sure they would actually move rather than dig for worms :)

Weekends are slog of laundry, errands, catchup cleaning, but really house is kind of always a disaster so we can't entertain.  We really need someone on deck, but it isn't like we can afford a house manager or live in nanny.  And leaving early/late for split shift I'm sure is not helping our career advancement but only way we are hanging on.

Curious to hear from other families with both parents WOH without family nearby, and do we need to make some hard choices to get one of us down to part time or 50% WAH?[/quote]

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