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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm your age and it probably takes me about 5 dates to get comfortable with a house visit on average. I kiss on the second date if there's chemistry. Not hard and fast rules but guys who hint at coming over early on usually turn me off.[/quote]

+1.  There is just too much crazy out there to have a house visit (for me) in the first few dates.  Guys that hint too early about coming over to cook I think that is code for I want to have sex right away and don't want to take you out on a date.  So I'm thinking at best he is cheap and looking for a booty call.  At worst, hey I don't know this guy so I may want to make out but not have sex but how do I know he will stop and either leave or let me leave when it is time to go.  I had a friend where the guy was dropping her off at her house after the date and was belligerent  when she wouldn't let him come inside the house.

So anyway, I think you have to be able to judge chemistry in the first few dates without necessarily going to each other's home. Let her take the lead on the home invitation if it is the early stages lest you come on too strong.  Once you are actually dating (versus going on dates) the house dates make sense.  If it is established that we really enjoy each other's company and this is date 5 or 6, I personally would expect us to move towards the hanging out to spend time versus always going out to spend time together.  [/quote]

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