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[quote=Anonymous]Most of us grow up and see our parents with new, entirely too critical eyes. I know my parents, as loving and wonderful as they are, could definitely be toxic and have definitely caused some emotional issues that I still deal with today.

For example, when I was little and got into a fight with my little sibling, my father would yell and scream at me and tell me I was vile for treating my sibling like that. Instead of being gently told to be nice to my little sibling, I was viciously villanized, called a "scorpion" and evil for mistreating  a little kid.Granted, once his temper cooled, he'd come to my room, hug me and apologize to me and tell me I was awesome. His words stuck. Even now I deal with immense self loathing and his treatment of me then has almost caused me to dislike my little sibling.

My mom had this awful habit of making me feel bad whenever my dad got me a present. Money was tight in our house. So when I asked for something, at first they'd say no and when I'd cry they'd feel bad and go out and buy it for me.When my dad was away, my mom would come to me and tell me I was a bad person for making  my dad spend money on me that he did not have etc. I felt SO guilty and even now it is hard for me to receive gifts without feeling like I do not deserve them.

I was never taught to clean my room or do laundry as my mom did everything. When I got older, however, I noticed that they turned it on me and would go around mocking me for being lazy and dirty or some such. I was constantly criticized and mocked and treated like I was helpless. In college, away from them, I learned to do laundry, cook and clean. There was nothing wrong with me after all.

I do resent them for doing a number on me. I also realize they were imperfect people who I know literally did the best they could. As such, I still love them and would do anything for them. I do not understand why people cut off parents for offenses like this.[/quote]

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