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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again - Question for you that took the dive and went for IVF. I know how disappointed I feel each month when I get a negative pregnancy test. I have a huge fear that I am going to go through IVF and all it entails (procedures, huge sums of cash) and it's going to fail and I will feel the disappointment I feel now, but magnified by 1000. I think that is part of my dragging my feet. The fear of IVF failure and what that would feel like.[/quote]

As I sit in the hospital waiting for my wife to get out of her second D&C in six months, I can tell you that it could quite possibly get worse. IVF failure is a gutting, cruel feeling.

We have one healthy son who is 3. Thank God for him. But my wife has also gone through six IVF cycles. She has been pregnant four times. We TFMR once, and she had two miscarriages.

Infertility is an ugly, painful bitch. It can be indiscriminately cruel and that's the awful part. You could get lucky, as we did with our first child, and go through one cycle, get your BFP, and have a non eventful pregnancy. Or you could deal with emotional heartache for years, in addition to pouring lots of time, money, and emotional energy into it. So there are no guarantees that it'll be smooth sailing. All you can do is take it one day at a time and go until your resolve and strength is spent, but hopefully you'll end up with a baby before that happens. [/quote]

OP here - I am so sorry. My two losses were within a six month period. They weren't the result of IVF, though, and I'm sure that makes them worse. I don't know what else to say except that I'm sorry and I wish you the strength to move forward from this. [/quote]

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