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[quote=Anonymous]So I'm going to nudge you to go back to the RE as well.  In your late 30s, every month matters.  Hopefully your first IVF goes well and you don't look back.  But if it doesn't, I think one of the most common refrains is women who wished they'd started earlier because it took longer than they thought it would to work.

It took me 2.5 years to get, and stay, pregnant. The second year and half was the hardest, darkest, toughest time of my life.

It's ok to feel a bit angry, a bit jealous, a bit upset.  The key is to not let it consume you.  Work hard at finding happiness for your friends who have babies.  It's worth it.  I sometimes had to dig deep and fake a smile through pregnancies that came at a hard time for me.  But it's what you do for your friends.  Once the babies were born, it was easier to be loving towards an actual child so I found it was easier to be genuinely happy.  Pregnancy was hard to watch though.  Try to remember that other people getting pregnant has nothing to do with you.  It's their lives, and they are living it.  Yes, it might cause you some pain, but that's yours to deal with.  Stay strong, be gentle with yourself.  And most of all: good luck![/quote]

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