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[quote=Anonymous]Middle school?

Drop the point system. He is not a six year old.

Replace it with chores and an allowance. He earns his own pocket money. He wants something when he is out, and it is not something you planned to buy, he can get it with his own money.

If it is too expensive, he will need to save.

If he needs to earn money he can start doing entrepreneurial things likewalking dogs or mowing the neighbors lawn.

Work on teaching him the three boxes system: one box for savings, on box for church (or charity if you are not religious or are religious but don't tithe) and one box for fun. Let him work out how much goes into each box.

He is almost a teenager and you owe it to him to teach him how to manage his finances so he can regulate himself as an adult...especially if he is adhd.  Points and rewards don't teach him the value of anything. He is too old for points.  If you want him to quit acting like a kindergartener, change your approach to one that treats him like he is his age and not like he is a five year old.

Work towards the goal that by the time he is in high school, you are only buying him his "needs", ie clothing and stuff for school/activities.  He is responsible for his "wants", such as video games, movies with friends, a new gadget.

As long as you keep treating him like a kindergartener, he will continue to act like one.

The transition migut be difficult at first, but wouldn't you rather struggle with this improtant life lesson now when he is a young kid, instead of seeing him continue to struggle with this into his adult years. No one wants to live with or employ a temper tantruming 20 something who expects to hsve everything handed to him.
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