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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]what he needs is your acceptance. He doesn't want you to fix it. He doesn't want you to hide stuff from him because you are afraid to hurt his feelings. He has had a major setback. If he has two MBAs and a good career before he is feeling like a loser. Men often tie their self worth to the $$ they make. He isn't asking for help because that just makes the issue worse. Men learn to take care of themselves. They also know that girls also look to them as "providers." If you walk away from him (like the PP suggested) that is just going to confirm his suspicion that his value IS tied to his money.  He will work it out for himself. What he really wants/needs (I suspect) is for you to be "ok" with him like he is.... if he works out his career and gets back on track he will feel like a success and things will get back to normal. Until then... its going to be on his mind... all the time. Frankly..... most men do not believe the women see us beyond what we can provide (money, advice, strength, etc....) take that away and we expect you gals to walk. If you try to fix him (offer advice, give him money, whatever.... it will be an issue (my guess)). If you really want to "help" him... he needs some "wins" under his belt. As counter intuitive as it may sound.... ask him for some sort of help (not money). He needs to feel like he still has something to offer. It needs to be something meaningful that HE will see as a "win." Asking him to take out the trash doesn't count. Also.... unless he can get a equal or better job expect him to feel bad about the new job. Why? because he will be underemployed.

This advice is from a guy who has multiple advanced degrees... lost his job... his wife left and took everything... and is now presently underemployed.[/quote]

+1 This is good advice!  Good luck to pp, you sound like very nice man. [/quote]

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