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[quote=Anonymous]My BF is wonderful and had a great PR career but seems to have lost his career somewhere along the way, found himself in reduced circumstances, and I'm worried about him. Every conversation we have, he feels the need to mention financial doom and gloom ("I can't see you today, it's the first of the month and bills are looming"; "all the balances are ugly"; when he was so tired he fell asleep on the couch and I said "poor thing" he replied "It's ok. "Poor" is the apt description.") I am looking for work now too and do NOT trouble him with my financial woes. This is a guy with 2 MBAs, but also a 16-year old son and two sets of parents that are both wealthy, but he won't ask for their help, not even for his son's sake. (He can however apparently afford to go to yoga, mediation, Nia and a therapist weekly.)

Now I have just started interviewing at a pretty nice pace, but am afraid to share any good news with him. I'm cognizant that $ is tight for him and am perfectly happy doing things like our "date" Sunday (splitting Shake Shack and watching GoT), and I could care less about $, but he is beyond depressed and obsessive about it. It's making it harder to stay optimistic and motivate myself to find work again.

What can I say-sweetly and kindly- that I haven't already to get him to stop the constant woeful $ mentions? I've tried many gentle prods indicating that this kind of talk makes me uncomfortable but I've hit the wall of diminishing returns here. Any ideas appreciated- TIA[/quote]

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