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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grown ups don't do the silent treatment.  A few minutes to calm down and move on is one thing, hours or days is childish and ridiculous.  Or it's abusive.

Dump and run.[/quote]

I respectfully disagree.  I've gotten into some pretty heated arguments with my partner and it's taken me days to cool off.  Same with him on different occasions.  Sometimes people need time to stop being defensive (or offensive), start calming down and being objective about their behavior or position.  We both know that sometimes we just need to not hear from the other person for a few days before we can either agree to disagree or regroup and discuss again.[/quote]

The cooling off period should not take days of silence.  And if you need to avoid a certain subject while you mull it over, that's fine.  But you should also be able to discuss other things with your spouse when you are in a disagreement (aka: how was work? Do I need to get Janie from practice today? etc).  If you can't do that, I'd suggest some couples therapy to work that out.[/quote]

I see the confusion.  You thought I was married.  I'm not.  we don't live together.  We don't see each other every day.  it's not unusual to spend a couple days not talking - especially if our last encounter included a fight. [/quote]

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