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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for all of the input.  I'm usually the type to just contact the other person first as soon as I'm calm enough.  I'm not very prideful that way.  I guess it's because I've seen a bit of this behavior from him before, and now I'm wondering if I should handle it a different way to help create a boundary that this wont be acceptable in the relationship.  In a past relationship, I was always the one to instigate the "work things out" conversation, and this was not a good dynamic for the relationship.

I guess that could be considered playing a game on my part, or it could be argued that I'm refusing to play his game.  I don't really know.  He may like the game: where he is hurt by the disagreement, he punishes me by no contact, then I contact him first (and to him it may mean something who does it first), and then I instigate the discussion where we work things out.

The disagreement was the night before last, so it's been 1.5 days and 2 nights.  We don't live together.  I'm still considering it may take some people that long to cool down.  It wasn't huge in my eyes, and I don't think a lot of people would think it was huge (no extreme/extended yelling etc.), but everyone is different there too.

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