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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How were gifts treated during his childhood?[/quote]

OP here. He never got much. He was poor. He obviously places little value on gift-giving, but shouldn't it be enough that it's important to me? It's not stuff I want, it's the sentiment. He's also a man of few words so I really don't get any verbal adoration either. I believe actions speak louder than words, and his actions say he's a loyal, loving husband and father, but the gift thing still hurts me. Am I being shallow?[/quote]

So, when do you mention it to him?  Between events, months before a holiday?  For someone who grew up poor, who does not place value in gift-giving and who is unaccustomed to being comfortable enough to be able to splurge for gifts, it's just not on his radar.  If you want to get him into the habit, for the next event (birthday, Christmas, Mother's Day, etc), remind him about 2 weeks before the event that receiving gifts from him is important and that he has a couple weeks left to pick out a gift that will help you feel valued as his partner.  You need to put it on his radar when the event is at hand.  After you've done this a handful of times (no really!), then you can start backing off and maybe reminding him a little farther (maybe a month?) out.  After another few times, try to remind him less and less and further apart.  But until he gets into the habit of actually thinking of, selecting and purchasing gifts, it will not be on his radar, it will not be an important event for him and it will not happen.

Think of it as teaching him how to give gifts.[/quote]

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