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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't just walk away. Send her a no-contact letter that very carefully explains the contact that she can or can't have with you.  Ie. "You can call me on my land line at home if you need to contact me for some reason.  You may not call my cell phone or come to my house. You may not call me at work. You may not call my friends, other family members, co-workers or boss. I will not respond to communications through those channels."

It should also explain if and when you plan on contacting her again.  Ie. "If you respect my boundaries, I will contact you again in the first week of December, or when X happens."

Most people also include a simple statement of why no-contact is necessary. Make that as unemotional as possible. "I feel X. I need Y."
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I have tried to create boundaries and tell her I will not tolerate her contacting these people and I will no longer speak to her if she continues. She said I was controlling and she has continued. One of my childhood friends said she called her three times yesterday and left voicemails about how she "knows how I am" and wants to talk to her.[/quote]

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