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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They often get the spunk smacked out of them by living in the patriarchal society we do. Sorry.[/quote]

OP: In some ways (I feel badly saying this, but I'm trying to be realistic) - I don't know that a little bit of that would be so bad. She cannot boss the entire world around at 5 years old. Maybe in 35 years (maybe?) she can start bossing people around at work, but that's a long time from now. I don't think her teachers and peers are going to appreciate being told what to do every minute. As her mother, I know I don't. This is not the "Life According to DD" show. I don't know how to emphasize that without going too far.[/quote]
Is she bossy to her peers as well as her parents? Is she "bossy" or a child who tantrums when she can't get her way? There is a difference. Teach manners and empathy and encourage her to stand up for what she wants and needs in a respectful way. Then, yes, wait for our culture to change her into a preteen who cares about how she looks and if the boys think she's skinny enough. (Yes I posted about the math teacher) this has been our experience and im glad my DD has retained a lot of the spunk she had as a 5 year old. But it's been a battle to protect her spirit while teaching social niceties. It often helps to me look at how I'd handle her if she'd been born a boy. It reveals my own biases. [/quote]

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