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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They often get the spunk smacked out of them by living in the patriarchal society we do. Sorry.[/quote]

OP: In some ways (I feel badly saying this, but I'm trying to be realistic) - I don't know that a little bit of that would be so bad. She cannot boss the entire world around at 5 years old. Maybe in 35 years (maybe?) she can start bossing people around at work, but that's a long time from now. I don't think her teachers and peers are going to appreciate being told what to do every minute. As her mother, I know I don't. This is not the "Life According to DD" show.[b] I don't know how to emphasize that without going too far[/b].[/quote]

Start with things she does understand.  By five, kids get the concept and often the rationale for taking turns.  Talk about how the same person shouldn't be in charge all the time, but instead take turns deciding what to do, etc.  Her peers aren't going to like being bossed around--and they will let her know.  Read stories about bossy kids, and talk about how the other kids feel about them.  Do they want to play with the bossy kid?  Would she like it if someone was always telling her what to do and not letting her decide?  Her teachers won't like being bossed around--and they will let her know.  Talk about how the teacher is in charge of the classroom.  Tell her that if she has a question or comment, she should talk to the teacher in private, not in front of the whole class.  [/quote]

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