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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Um he is abusive. And I don't throw that word around lightly.

But WTF he judges your outfits before you go to work? You aren't 'allowed' to load the dishwasher????

Dude I mean, therapy? I feel like you seem wayyyyyy too complacent about this. I do not need permission to do ANYTHING in my marriage other than maybe, spend a lot of money on a big purchase. [/quote]

He doesn't judge outfits - he just strongly feels that I should always wear pants to be taken seriously and not sexualized in a male-dominant workplace.  I get to choose the actual pants - I think if it is 100 degrees out and I want to wear a dress, just shut up.  [/quote]

Has he ever made you change? I mean do you feel you can go about your day without asking him for something? What happens if you do something that isn't in line with his preferences?[/quote]

No and no.  I have to ask for something every day under his "house rules," and he has declared himself in charge of a lot of things that result in me having to ask for things (see, e.g., the first-aid kit).  If I do something he doesn't like, he either sulks or makes such a big deal blathering on and on for 30 minutes and making me "promise not to do it again" and reiterating his 50 reasons for why his way is the right way that I never ever do whatever it is again.  For example, I used "his" coffee machine once and lost an hour of my life hearing about it - no yelling, no hitting, just so much whining and nagging.[/quote]

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