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I would have a lot of sympathy for them - clearly something is not quite right.
If you don't want to reach out to them (they are probably depressed and such) then at least don't hate them. You are not the problem.

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OP, you're seeing this entirely through your own lens of "They must not be good friends to do this to me." If you liked them, why didn't you try to find out if something was wrong and if you could help? "Poof, gone" can actually be a huge red flag that someone has serious trouble and it's not about you.

When people suddenly fall off the radar, it does not necessarily mean they are ditching you because they're bad people or dislike you. They may be having issues that you know absolutely nothing about and which make them embarrassed, or upset, or depressed to the point they feel they have no right to contact friends or acquaintances because they're so low and would only make others feel bad. This is how depressed people sometimes think, and then they cut themselves off. So do people who are grieving, or breaking up a relationship, or just feeling overwhelmed. Maybe you, yourself, would not react like that -- but can you accept that others might do it, and can you cut them slack?

Please show some sympathy and give others the benefit of the doubt. Real friends would first think, "Is something wrong and can I help?" rather than thinking, "She didn't stay in touch/didn't respond to me as I wanted, so I'm offended, and won't reach out. It's all on him/her." Maybe instead you could try contacting them again and saying, "Hey, I haven't heard from you in a long time but I remember what made us friends and would like to see you again, and if something's up, I'm here to talk it out if you want."

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