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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother and I are 7 years apart and get along really well but, like the PP said, we are not really "friends" since I left for college when he was only 10 and didn't come back for extended periods of time. However, we have a lot in common with similar personalities--we have the same sense of humor, a lot of the same interests and sensibilities--so I think we'll likely become closer as we get older. Right now, he's only 22, is single, working odd jobs since graduating college and doesn't really have anything figured out in regards to future plans or career goals. Meanwhile, I am approaching 30, married, with a kid and thinking about having another kid, have been to graduate school and had a successful career before having our kid so my brother and I are just at very different places in our lives (and we also live in different states).

Pros: 
*the older kid gets plenty of time to get all the benefits of being an only--all the 1 on 1 attention, etc. 
*the older kid is old enough and presumably responsible enough to actually help out w/ the baby and in a few years they can actually babysit (I started babysitting at age 11, when my brother was 4)
*you get to really relive the baby phase/all the phases again and can actually take the time to enjoy them since your older kid is in school and has activities and such. This would be a pro for me because I am loving the baby-toddler stage personally as a parent and I think if you have your kids closer together it would be harder to really enjoy/appreciate these stages since you're so bogged down in them 
*you won't have to pay 2 college tuitions at once. You won't be an empty nester once your first leaves and will then get lots of one on one time w/ your second/youngest after the older ones leaves
*you will just have one teenager at a time:)

I won't do the cons because you get the picture...but basically, the only major downside in my opinion is that your kids may not wind up being as close as kids/adolescents/young adults since they'll always be at such different stages. But, they may not be close anyway even if they are close in age so it's never a guarantee that your kids will be best friends no matter their age difference.

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Thanks for this tremendously thoughtful reply. Your pros list is great!![/quote]

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