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[quote=Anonymous]DD is in kindergarten, and we are part of a certain racial/ethnic group.  She had a playdate recently with another girl, whom she’s played with all year, and on the way home, I learned that the girl’s father used an offensive slur to DD.  The slur is known to be offensive, would be bleeped on TV, and refers to our group.  While I know that children, especially 5-year-olds, are not reliable reporters, I 100% believe that this interaction took place.  DD repeated the slur, not knowing what it meant, and we talked about how it was not a nice thing to say and that she was never to say it again.  This all happened yesterday evening.

I do not know how to handle it with the other parents.  I’ve never met the dad, but the mom seems nice enough in the interactions we’ve had.  The girl has come to our home a couple of times, but this was the first time DD went over there.  When I first heard what happened, I was so steamed I knew I had to wait before deciding how to react.  Now that I’m calm, I still don’t know what to do.  Confront the parents and call them out?  Take a softer approach and let them know that the language is hurtful?  (guessing they probably already know that).  Talk to the dad directly, or go through the mom?  Ignore it and pretend it doesn’t bother us?  Email, phone call, face to face?  What to say exactly?  I’m just all over the place with this, I know.  I figured DD would face this kind of prejudice at various points in her life, but it makes me so sad that it happened so young.  And of course I’m angry that a grown man thinks it’s totally okay to use that language when speaking to a 5-year-old.

Looking for advice--What should I do now?
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