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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She needs to respond to his text (wtf, she's really going to ignore it?) and leave it right there. If he makes overtures she just needs to tell him it was a one time thing. It seems like she's being a bit dramatic about this whole thing, don't make yourself available for a play-by-play of this after your initial advice.[/quote]

She is very dramatic. Has been our entire relationship.
I've tried to be patient with her this last year because of the divorce, and she feeling everyone was judging her and leaving her out of things for being single.
I told her  she can't ignore his text.
I've also told her he probably isn't thinking too much about it but she's convinced he is because he still loves her and didn't want to get divorced.
I told her if she was so worried about his feelings she shouldn't have slept with him. Because of that I'm judging and not being understanding of her.
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I agree, it's doubtful he's pining after her the way she imagines he is. That's why she shouldn't even worry about how to let him down easy... He hasn't even asked for anything yet![/quote]

I told her that, that he probably hasn't given it a second thought, he just needed to relieve some stress.

But she says when she finally text him back  he thanked her for coming to his mum's funeral and that it meant a lot to him that  she would come even though they were divorce, and that his mum thought she was lovely.

To her that means he is pining.
I said you know him better, but it seems he's just being polite.  He's not saying we should get back together, and if he does just tell him you're happy to  support him as a friend, but anything beyond that would not be a good idea.
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Posting reply again because of format.
Truthfully, I think she likes the idea of him pining after her. When they were together she would always joke and be smug about him loving her more than she loved him.. I also know she has checked his FB over the last year to see if he was seeing anyone.
But she swears up  and down she doesn't have feelings for him that way and that's why she  divorced him.
As for how they ended up in bed, she says he asked her to stay because he didn't want to be alone, and  they had some beer  and were talking  and cuddling like old friends , and he started to cry and she kissed him, and one thing led to another. :roll: 
But that's not my concern.

I've told her I don't have the energy to process with her right now, because I've got other stuff  going on, and that there doesn't seem to be much to process other than she needing to be honest about her feelings/motives.

She didn't like that.

Whatever![/quote]

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