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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How is this something you're just finding out now?[/quote]

My husband has been covering it up to a certain extent and they didn't talk about it until recently. My husband said they were going on vacation or to professional workshops when in fact they were attending these cult workshops. What they told me directly contradicts the information online about this person and group which is also what I find creepy. They buy into stories that are easily disposed by newspaper articles. My husband claims these newspapers are Christian groups, as though he defends them.[/quote]

I'd be even more disturbed that your husband lied to you about where they were than I would be about his parents' participation in this group.

Why did he feel this need to cover for them and lie to you? Is it just embarrassment on his part? Or was there more to it, and he maybe was afraid you'd tell him he should intervene with his  parents--? Why couldn't he just talk with you frankly especially if you and he are on the same page generally in the belief that this group and its guru are bunk?

I would stop first and consider why your husband is acting like this and why he thinks he cannot just be frank and open with you about this. Maybe he's in denial about their involvement with this group; maybe he hoped to keep all this from you because you and his parents have history where you and they don't get along well and he fears this news will create rifts or drama; maybe he actually feels some sympathy with this group and its leader and is afraid you'll find that out and react badly. Whatever the reason, I'd be talking with him about why he couldn't tell you the truth earlier.

I agree with an earlier PP who noted that this could affect you and your husband if his parents end up giving money to this organization and then later you and he have to support them financially. That might be a good point to bring up with him later. But first I'd try to take a cool look at what's going on here between you and him, before getting into his parents' choices.[/quote]

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