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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents are divorced and are simply not that interested in my kids - now almost in high school.  We do live on opposite coasts and I make it a point to fly out at least once a year - although I missed last year.  My mom's husband's daughter was getting married the same time we visit so I wanted to give them space. I have never met the daughter and we were not invited to the wedding.   My parents never come out to visit me.  They do travel to Europe, caribbean cruises and around the country though.  My sister has kids and she experiences the same thing. Both my sister and I are financially independent and have not received any money from our parents since college.

It has taken me many years to process this - it is actually very hurtful and painful.  But you don't get to pick your parents and they were sort of not that interested in being parents either now that I look back on my childhood.  But they seem happy with their lives so that makes me feel better.

Anyway, I was talking to my mom on the phone the other day - planning the yearly trip out to visit them (at great expense to me but I do it.)  [b]When my mom starts talking about how amazing it is to be a grandparent and what special relationships she has with her grandchildren.   She has not seen or spoken to my kids in two years.  Could it be that my mom actually thinks she is an involved grandparent?[/b] [/quote]

This is my mother and how she describes her relationship with me. She's delusional. 
She was very neglectful and emotionally abusive to me growing up but thinks we are so close. She knows nothing about my life. Seriously, the woman doesn't even know where/how I got engaged or that I had a c section. Luckily she lives 800 miles away so I rarely have to see her. I text her photos of my kid and that's about it.[/quote]

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