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[quote=Anonymous]I am like oil and water with my in laws, they drive me effing crazy. I would say the two main issues I have are the fact that they are slobs who just destroy my house (leave shit everywhere, are just generally very messy people while I like the house to be clean) and they also do not have a good understanding of personal space, making me feel totally suffocated at all times. With my first, they came for her birth but it was drama central when I didn't want them in the hospital room at all times. I remember one particular fight that ensued because they felt very offended that I asked them to leave the room while working with the lactation consultant while trying to learn to breastfeed (see issue two: no understanding of personal space).

Trying to figure out the best time to have them come after birth of #2. I am under no illusions that they will lift a finger to help with #1 during this time, because that's never going to happen. Would it be better to have them come while I am still in the hospital with an understanding that visits will be limited and brief? My only concern is that if I'm not at home to follow them around the house cleaning up, my house will look like a pigsty and I know myself well enough to know that I will be very upset coming home to that with a newborn when I'm already hormonal and not at my best. But if I have them come later, I'll have to deal with them around all the time which could be even worse. How do others handle this? Tell them they can come while I'm in the hospital but they have to stay at a hotel?[/quote]

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