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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had a nice day planned --sleep in, go to  farmers market, garden store, evening glass of wine out by the fire pit.

Instead I wake up to a text tone. My mother, whose number I blocked years ago, got a new number so she could wake me on mother's day with a stream of self-absorbed nonsense.  Since I was up I checked my email. Her address is blocked but sure enough she'd figured it out and sent an absolutely insane and aggressive email -- also Mother's Day morning.

Although I ordinarily don't respond when she finds a way through to me on line I broke down and responded to her text, telling her to leave me alone.

That was a mistake. She then copied and pasted my text into a group text with her younger sister and two of her friends, prefacing it with "look at the lovely response XX gave to my Mother's Day message." And they proceeded to "lecture" me by text and complain about me to each other. I was in the shower when she started the group text. By the time i got out there were over 20 messages on the chain.

When we left the house she was waiting there to ambush me and demanded to be let in. I said no and we all got in the car. My daughter was really upset -- my mother's erratic and irresponsible behavior with her was one of the straws that broke the camel's back. I was on edge when we were out and we actually had to ask a child-free friend to check whether the coast was clear so we could come home.

Even though she had ruined another Mother's Day a few years back-  sending me a barrage of texts warning that if I let my child go to sleepaway camp she would be psychiatrically damaged, that I was destroying the child's soul by not raising her religious, and that she was the best mother ever and I am too stupid to understand that -- I didn't expect her to start up again yesterday.

I'm not a big one for holidays-- I don't like to receive gifts or cards or have a party thrown for me --but I do like to plan a pleasant day.

I'm at peace with the fact that a terrible person raised me and that I'll never have a mother to trust or confide in or rely on. My expectations are really simple: have the space and privacy to enjoy a normal day with my family-- of which my mother is not a member in any sense other than genetically.

It's weird that this is too much to ask.

I'm already thinking that next year we should go out of town. Although it's a pain in the butt I might have to change cell numbers too.

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I am so sorry. My Mom was like that.   Call the police if she shows upat your house again[/quote]

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