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[quote=Anonymous]By some miracle I survived my mother and am healthy enough as an adult to be a good and loving mother myself.

I dread Mother's Day though. For most of the year I put my past out of my mind. Holidays can be underwhelming because it's just us and I feel bad not being able to give the kids a big thanksgiving but we generally deal with that by going on a mini vacation.

Mother's Day sucks though. The unbearable Facebook posts have already begun -- pictures of friends with their non-psychopath mothers and tear jerker articles about mother-daughter relationships. It makes me so uncomfortable.

My mother was always a special turbo-charged version of herself on Mother's Day; she'd make a scene at a restaurant to get sympathy from strangers about what a terrible spouse she had, and when my brother and I would inevitably cringe she'd start in on us (ungrateful, impossible, etc.).

In past years I've visited my grandmother, who is the mother I didn't have and the sole role model I have for parenting. The visits made me happy, but truthfully they also got me out of having to observe this holiday I really can't stand. I'd bring her a card and flowers and hang out with her and feel pretty smart for escaping the familiar traditions like gifts and restaurant brunches and cards for me.

Well, my grandmother died. I miss her and I really, really hate the Mother's Day hype even more than in past years. I'm feeling depressed about it and desperately want my husband to listen to my request that we not do anything. He seems to think it sends a bad message to the kids that they should take me for granted. Personally I think that ignoring my wishes sends a bad message. I also think if we need a Hallmark holiday to get them to appreciate others we're pretty screwed.

So am I the only perspn who likes being a mother but  who hates Mother's Day? [/quote]

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