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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your thread is so lame you could have just posted on the other thread.

Actually i am responsible for buying gifts for his family. DH travels a lot. His hours are ridiculous. I SAH. For the breakdown of duties in our house, it makes the most sense for me to be in charge of all gift purchasing and sending. It's not really a difficult task.

Also, DH is the worst gift giver. I'd hate to inflict his brand of thoughtfulness on his family. He has many talents, but gift giving is not one of them. His family knows I'm in charge of such things and they talk to me about gifts.

I also plan vacations and visits to his family. Often he can't go with us because of his work schedule. They know to talk to me about travel plans, because DH is just along for the ride.

It all depends on how couples choose to break down the duties in their family. Sometimes it all falls on the DW. Sometimes it all falls on the DH. Sometimes they split it evenly. It's not up to you to dictate how other people celebrate their family's holidays.

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Clearly, you are not who the OP is talking about, because you and your husband are on the same page about this stuff (division of labor), and it is getting DONE. So no one in his family feels slighted or insulted or whatever. By working with you, communicating, and dividing up labor with you, HE IS taking responsibility for his family. In some families, there is no communication and division of labor, it's not getting done...but then the woman gets blamed. So yeah, this thread isn't about you, sweetie![/quote]

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