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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am ready to get a dumpster and just haul everything out and start all over.  Let me start by saying that I have taken many steps to help organize DS.  I even labeled the shelves in his closet on where things go, so he can easily find things.

My 15 year old will not throw anything out.  Anything.  His trash can is always empty, but piles and piles of papers, magazines, device cables, devices, books, clothes, food, empty food packages, empty water bottles, pens, pencils, are strewn all over the floor on a regular basis.  The only time this is not the case is when the cleaning lady comes.  She is a saint and doesn't complain.  I usually ask him to pick up before hand, but his approach is to pile all this stuff on top of his desk, which is piled high about 2 feet with books papers and junk and throw any clean clothes on the floor in his closet, rather than fold and put away.  He has plenty of shelf space to put books and papers, but he doesn't use it.  He will not let me help him organize anymore and will not throw anything out...even old papers from school.

When I do his laundry and ask him to put it away, nothing is put where it belongs, and consequently he can't find something important like a sports jersey or something he really needs.  Socks end up on the t-shirt drawer, athletic shorts end up in the pajama drawer...nothing is where it belongs.  It is really a problem to the point that i have started putting his stuff away for him because I can't take trying to help him find things or going out to buy new stuff because he lost them.  By the way, we did try having him fold and put away, and that was even worse.

He has ADHD, and not medicated.  Bright kid, good student getting mostly As in a challenging curriculum.  Can't do meds because of side effects.

Please tell me I am not alone here, and if anyone has any suggestions on how to help this kid (who is beginning to resent me).  I worry about how he is going to manage when he leaves home for college in a few years.  Is there a professional I can hire to help him get organized?  Should I cross post this on kids with special needs, or is this a universal issue among all teen boys?[/quote]

My DS is 13 and I have the same issue. DS washes his own clothes, but the clean clothes end up on the floor with the dirty ones. I am thinking of hiring a life coach for DS.[/quote]

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