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[quote=Anonymous]Long story, so if you're not in a reading mood don't bother lol.
First off, I don't hate my in-laws. They've been very good to my husband and I. But lately, I've been gaining more and more disdain toward both of them. 
Here's the situation.
My in-laws are splitting up. The divorce is currently in the works.
FIL decided to have an affair with a young girl and get her pregnant. Ran off in February and has had extremely minimal contact since. He's been cowardly about making his mistakes. MIL is devestated. As you could imagine. DH and I have been out to her house many times to comfort her and offer help around the house, yard work, etc.
Since FIL left, MIL has been calling/texting myself and DH several times a day. If we don't answer, she starts accusing us of siding with him and acting manic and depressed. That alone is stressful enough. She decided to use DH as a middle man between her and her husband's marital issues. Calling to ask what his dad is doing what he's saying what DH thinks is going on, talking crap and making DH feel awful. He's been put in the middle and feels forced to take sides. He knows what his dad did was unacceptable, clearly. But he wants to keep a relationship because it IS his father. It's been breaking his heart. To make matters worse, she has brought DH into legal matters with the lawyer as well. It's completely unfair and in my opinion, immature. This back and forth game has just gotten ridiculous. Now MIL feels incredibly entitled. 
To make matters EVEN worse, we just had a baby a month ago. Our first. Their first grandchild. Because of the drama between the two of them, our daughter hasn't even been able to meet her grandfather. He's living out of town, and has no vehicle to make his way back.
MIL is taking it upon herself to try and become our daughter's caregiver anytime we turn around. We went out to visit and because we decided to go home she got angry and offended and tried to make us leave the baby there overnight. I'm not comfortable with any of the situation. 
FIL is being cowardly and dismissive, MIL is being entitled and stubborn.. And both of them are putting my husband in the middle of their disagreement. Because of their immaturity and inability to handle their situation like adults, they won't form a relationship with their granddaughter, and they're breaking their son's heart. I just don't know what to do.

I understand the whole story is kind of a mess.. I didn't know where to begin or what to include. 
But what would you do in my situation? i can't stand seeing my husband like this and it angers me so much that my daughter may miss out on family relationships because of this. Would you say something to your in-laws? Set ground rules or just give them a dose of reality? Part of me feels like it's not my place. And if you would say something, how would you go about it without being totally inappropriate?[/quote]

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