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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, as a woman, for the first time in my life I tried to stand up for myself and negotiate more money after receiving an offer for a new job.  I thought I handled things with tact and care, and sought careful professional advice on how best to approach the negotiation (for the first time!).  But all I got was attitude and a "put you in your place" approach from the employer.  [b]I feel like crying and like I was being slapped for trying to have a voice.[/b]  I am a highly trained and educated professional with years of experience, and the employer is respectable organization.  Anyway, I feel like there is a lot of lip-service to the whole "stand-up-for-yourself approach", but at the end of the day people really don't want women to speak up for themselves.  The worst part? The people who put me in my place were also women.[/quote]

I know this is your first time negotiating, so good for you for doing it. But you're taking this way to personal. This is how negotiations work. They don't have to concede to your wishes. And you don't need to accept their job. I think men are perceived as successful negotiators because they don't get emotional.

I think the PPs suggestion of assertivness training is a really good recommendation. If you are going to perform in senior roles, you'll need to be able to advocate without getting hurt feelings if you do not achieve what you or your company wanted.

Dust yourself off and move forward, the fact that you did negotiate is a wonderful achievement. It will get easier.[/quote]

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