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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's a very tough call.  I would do donor eggs if my last ditch attempt with OE doesn't work.  For me (and I am being very candid here since this is an anonymous board), there are 3 factors that make adoption a no go: 1) cost 2) logistics and 3) I am not interested in raising someone else's child after going though 1) and 2).

For DE I would go outside of the US in part to minimize the costs and I would feel better knowing that the child is my husband's, since he is the reason I want to have children to begin with. I would also feel better being able to learn about the donor (education, hobbies, photos).

I admire people who adopt, but I know I am not cut out for that. I realize all this may make me sound like a bit of an ass, but this is honestly how I feel.  [/quote]

OP, I've never met an adoptive parent (and I'm one, too) who, once they and the child came together, felt like they were "raising someone else's child."[/quote]

I understand and appreciate that. But this is a self selected group - people who were open to adoption, wanted to do it, and went trough a rigorous time and resource consuming process. So these are the ones who were really sure of their choice.  Those who don't want that choice and are not open to it wouldn't go through with it.

Also, even though it may not apply to your group, but there have been cases when adoptive parents couldn't deal with the child and did regret it and either put their kids for re-adoption/private placement, or sent them to residential facilities for difficult children. These are probably a very small minority, but it's not like it's entirely impossible to ever regret it.

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