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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son is a junior and getting close to when he'll need to make some decisions about what colleges to apply to.  Problem is, he doesn't want to discuss it.  I suspect some of it is fear since he's not really sure what he's interested in and he's also concerned that some places he likes may be out of his reach.

So far, we've visited one college because it was close, just to get the process started.  But even after that, he quickly shut down again and wouldn't talk about other colleges that he might like to put on his list.

He's a bright kid, doing full IB, playing a sport he may continue in college, but I fear he may be closing doors without realizing it, but refusing to focus on his options.   Short of coming up with a nominal list on our own, I'm really not sure what I can do.  I don't want to add to his stress by pressuring him about it, but am aware the clock is ticking.    Has anyone had a kid like this?  And if so, what did you do?  What helped, what didn't?   My son has always been young for his age, and the sort who doesn't always live in the real world, which can be charming or maddening depending on the day.  :)[/quote]

Doing full IB can be a pressure cooker, and some kids feel trapped and forced into it at the IB schools because not doing the full IB diploma instantly turns you into a second-class citizen.  He may feel burned out and like college will just be more of the same. Back off and reiterate a gap year would be OK.[/quote]

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