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[quote=Anonymous]My younger sister has never been super responsible. People like to joke that we grew up in different households because we have entirely different outlooks on life. She's messy, I'm tidy, etc, etc...you get it. But that "joke" isn't so funny anymore now that she's 30 and still expecting the world to let her get away with everything.

I've been financially supporting her for years in some way or another but for the past year, she's actually been living with me and my son. While she had a small income, that was basically her "shopping money" for fun stuff.

She did occasionally help with babysitting. While I appreciated that, it became harder and harder to come home from work and immediately have to start cleaning up after 2 people. My son used to be great at chores but her terrible example has mostly depleted his good habits of picking up after himself. She refused to pitch in with housework, even when I specifically asked for one thing ("just by the end of the day, it would really help me out"), electing to lay around the house on her phone all day.

I finally sat down and had a big talk with her last month, told her this wasn't working and she needed to find her own place. It took a while (mostly because she was wildly unrealistic about the kind of housing she could find) but she finally got a place nearby. I was so relieved we worked it out and she could stay in our lives.

Well, moving day has come and gone and her stuff is still everywhere. She keeps pushing the move back, saying she doesn't have time (yes she does) and asking for more money to cover this and that expense. I'm going completely insane stepping over her piles of junk. If you saw my living room, you would think someone was in the middle of packing but ran out to grab coffee. Nope, it has looked like this for weeks now.

Of course, any time I try to bring up how unhappy and anxious this whole thing is making me, she tells me to calm down, she's handling it, and by the way, I need therapy. Our mother keeps sending me nasty texts, telling me to stop "bullying" my sister, that "this is just the way she is," and I have to just accept it and help her out.

On top of everything, she missed the tax filing deadline for the 4th year in a row. Last year, I had to pay hundreds of dollars to the IRS for her, even though I'm pretty sure she should have a refund (that would definitely help with moving expenses, don't ya think?)

I'm honestly not just here to vent. Does anyone else have a situation like this with family? I love her and want her in my life but I can't take this anymore. I have an actual child to support and my sister's careless attitude is making me angrier every day. My anxiety is through the roof and I hate being at my own house, living in her transitional pigsty. And of course I'm dreading the next time she comes to me with her hand out. How do I break this cycle? [/quote]

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