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[quote=Anonymous]I decline if (i) I absolutely don't know the person -- as in a stranger or we chatted for 3 min at a conference and don't move in the same professional circles; or (ii) if I would NEVER turn to them for networking help or to discuss my career -- i.e. a few partners at my old firm who were utter douchebags yet they're quick to LinkedIn former senior associates but from my perspective if I can never reach out to you in real life bc you're horrible, why bother on social media.

So I think my parameters for adding people are fairly broad. So this woman I currently work with -- and hate -- sent me an invite. Is it fine to turn it down? We're both gov't attorneys --she's 20 yrs my senior but at the same level as me in terms of title (i.e. not my boss). Does horrible work (which isn't my problem) but on top of that is horribly nosy -- wanting to know every single thing about your finances/career (how much do you have in your 401k; how close are you to buying a house; will you leave the govt to make money; how much were you saving in your biglaw gig) -- all asked very directly in a very judgmental critical tone as she tries to compare where you "stack up" in life vs. her even though you're 15 yrs younger. So I don't want her rifling thru my contacts or scrutinizing my LinkedIn all the time to see if I made changes and if that suggests I'm job searching (I'm not but likely will in the next 12 months).

Fine to decline? What if she brings it up --bc she's blunt enough that she will. Is there an easy brushoff answer?[/quote]

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