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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL definitely wants to call all the shots, and her husband and my DH are trained to fall in line with her. I used to be okay with this dynamic when I was weak early in our marriage, but two kids later I am a LOT less tolerant of her BS. This leads to us seeing her less.

If my husband had my back more, I wouldn't resist seeing her as much but I'm not cleaning my house and cooking for three days just to be bossed around by someone who my kids dont even like anyways![/quote]

Similar.  Advice to you OP is to establish some boundaries NOW before she interferes and intrudes even more.  She will.  BTDT.

I had an early stand off with MIL that is kind of funny to me now, but it was important that I stood up for myself.  We were all together and were about to go out with our newborn DD.  MIL saw me come out of the house holding my baby in an appropriate for the weather (lets say it was a hot and humid afternoon) outfit and horror of all horrors, no blanket!  MIL passive aggressively said she'd wait for me to go back and get a blanket.  I said I was ready to go w/o a blanket, didn't need one.  MIL got pushier and said I really, really needed to wrap the baby...anyway, I just started walking as MIL looked shocked and muttered something like "harumph/I never!"  Sorry, my (third) baby, my rules.

Yes, there is a dynamic that MIL's DH and my DH and his brother ALL cowtow to mom.  She is the queen and has bossed everyone around for a lifetime.  Wonder if this is at play here?  Similar dynamic, OP?  Does MIL only have sons and you are the only or first DIL?    [/quote]

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