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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op Here. I was in individual counseling for a few months prior to begging him to go to counseling with me. We went 5 times and the counselor basically told him that he needed to say what he needed from me in order to feel secure and trust me. He couldn't exactly pinpoint what he needed besides me going out with my friends. Which I did. That still didn't help.

We have three kids. They know that "Mom and Dad are going through a tough time" and they have expressed their fears of us getting a divorce. It breaks my  heart because I would rather stay in a shitty marriage to make my kids happy if that's what I need to do.

I cheated because he's gone 5 months out of the year and we lost connection. It was my fault. I know this. [/quote]

He will never trust you again because you can't be trusted. You never fully committed to individual counseling to find out why you choose to cheat when faced with adversity in your marriage. A few months is not a long time.

I cheated because he is gone part of the year... NO! You cheated because you deal with adversity by cheating. Why?

Until you figure out why you cheated and put things in place to stop cheating as a way to deal with your own issues he should never trust you.

Get a new therapist.... the one you had sucked. They would not let you get away with "I cheat because my H has to travel for work". [/quote]

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