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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is going to sound a little strange, but have you considered taking up a hobby together that you know you are going to be bad at?  For my child it was really helpful to see me fail (repeatedly) and keep trying.  We ended up having long talks about how nobody can be good at everything etc.

However, I would not recommend ice skating- the ice is really hard.

Currently, I am failing at playing the piano. I've found it is good for me to have a hobby where I will not be very good, but I can have fun and a sense of accomplishment when I persevere.

I had heard that DC is where valedictorians come to recover...[/quote]

I'll second this suggestion. Had a similar situation with a son who is also a perfectionist with no patience. Along with underlying anxiety issues that we addressed (are still addressing with some success), he needed to completely bomb at something and learn that it wasn't the end of the world. In his case it was a music program audition. We talked about it beforehand and included a lot of ridiculous worst case scenarios (you are accidentally knocked unconscious with your instrument and they throw tomatoes, etc.) . It helped a lot.[/quote]

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