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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would describe my relationship with DH's family as "fine" - not particularly warm but we are all friendly and there is nothing palpably wrong.  Things were a little weird around our wedding and the aftermath (2.5 years ago), but that seems to have settled into the "fine"ness.  It's hard to describe the dynamic, really.

Lately DH has taken to skyping with his family when I'm not around on the weekends - either showering or napping or doing an errand or something.  I actually really dislike videochatting so from my perspective it's nice, I want the kids to get to know the extended family and I get out of it, so ... a win, right?  But I worry that the family thinks I don't like them, or that it in some way sends a bad message.  Like, DH's brother's wife is usually involved in the skypes when they happen, so I feel like it's noticeable that I'm missing.  One of the wedding issues was basically both DH's family and me getting butthurt over feeling like the other didn't like us, so I'm pretty nervous about giving off this impression.  I've talked to DH about arranging videochats in advance but he says that's just too hard to do, and it just seems to work out better when there's downtime to give it a shot.  And I guess this makes sense that the "downtime" happens more often when he's watching the kids and needs something to do because I'm out.

Is it acceptable to just not like videochat?  Or should I make more of an effort?[/quote]

Depends upon what culture you are from? In some cultures, ur DH's family may think you are uptight while in some culture they won't care[/quote]

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