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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband's company is moving him to Irving, Texas next year and he insists on going with or without me.  Currently, we live in DC, having moved from NYC for my job.

So far in our 8-year marriage, my husband has moved for my career. I am a litigation associate at a big law firm.  We started out in NYC when I was a first year associate, moved to DC for me to clerk for a District Judge (prestigious in the legal profession) for a year, moved back to NYC for two years, then moved to DC for me to clerk again at the Court of Appeals.  After clerking, I decided to go to a major DC-based firm with no NYC office, instead of back to NYC.  My husband was upset, but had his transfer to DC finalized.

My husband works in financial sales.  He has worked for the same company for over 10 years and did not have to leave because the company has both DC and NYC offices.  The moves from office to office to accommodate my career have probably made it hard for him to rise in the company.

All of my contacts are in DC and NYC.  My plan was to go to the SEC or DOJ if I were to leave big law.  I have no idea what I would do in Dallas.  I don't know if firms would hire someone as senior as me.  Even if a firm would hire me, I don't know if they would really take me seriously.  I do not want to be an AUSA and looking at USA Jobs for SEC positions in Dallas, those seem few and far between.  I don't know what other government jobs are an option there.  I love the idea of living in a warm, Southern city with a low cost of living, but I worry about what will happen to my career.

My husband feels it is my turn to support his career and that, with my credentials, I could make a go of it in Dallas if I wanted to.  Does anyone have any advice as far as law firms to look at or going in house or government?  I am not stuck on big law because I have been having doubts about the life of a junior partner, but I do want to be able to do meaningful, stable work with good pay.  It seems I am going to have to arrive in Dallas with no job and then start looking.  Is that career suicide?[/quote]

In 20 years, do you want to sit next to your husband having coffee or do you want to wake up in an empty bed, roll over check your phone, and go into the office?[/quote]

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