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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in my forties with a full but enviable plate -husband and I both have great but challenging jobs, beuautiful young kids, attractive and in shape, pretty good finances, good health.

It wasn't easy getting here, though.  We've been together for many years now and he is my best friend and I love him.

But I had PPD with our last kid and went through a tortuous time at work for the past year or two.  And recently, I'm so embarrassed to even say this, I cannot stop thinking about sleeping with someone at my job who is almost 25 years older. This person is my mentor and an incredible person.  He's married with kids, but I know from long ago that he is in an open marriage.  He's charming and larger than life, probably the most important man in my life other than my dad and husband.

So for the past few months, something changed between me and this man.  There's suddenly chemistry.

He's checking me out. I'm checking him out.  I'm literally dressing for him in the morning.
We are exchanging cute flirty emails.  We're both appropriately flustered at times and other times, staring too long at each other's faces.  I know those of you reading this might think what I am describing is gross, but it's the hottest thing I've dealt with in many years.  I go home and have awesome sex with my husband pretending it's the other man. I literally cannot stop thinking about him.  I'm having more fun and am happier than I've been in a long time,
but for the wrong reasons.

[b]But I am a grown up. I may want to have crazy sex with this man, but I don't want to risk losing my husband and kids and this life I've worked so hard to build[/b].

What should I do?  Therapy?  Please help. [/quote]

What are you willing to risk then? Nothing in life is free. [/quote]

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