Reply to How did your feelings about your parents change over time?

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "How did your feelings about your parents change over time?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My father died 15 years ago. At first I really grieved his loss. But a few years ago, the clouds in my brain began to clear and I saw what a total jerk he was and what a bad parent he was. Yes, I loved him, but he was a truly awful parent and an all-around mediocre human being. I miss a few things about him, but mostly, when I think about him, I think about what a jerk he was, and how he screwed me up when I was a child by all the awful, stupid things he said to me and the idiotic things he did. 
My mother, on the other hand, I feel more sympathy for. She made a mistake when she married my father, and because of her era, she felt she had to stay with him. Today, she might get more support for getting away from him, but back then, she was pushed to stick it out with her terrible husband. She died fairly young, so they never got divorced, which they ought to have. 
She was always yelling at him, and he was the "calm" one, so I always thought he was the "good" one, and she was the "bad" guy. In time, I've realized how wrong my assessments were. She was a victim, and he was an a**hole. 
It feels good to see clearly, even though it took me a long time to get there. My mother's main fault was that she was a weak person. Had she been stronger, she would have left her husband, a seriously flawed man she never should have married. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics