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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work, I make over $200k, DH works a lot too, makes more but is volatile income, we have two little Pre-K kids and a live-out nanny.

Someone asked me the other day if I have ever considered quitting my career and staying at home with the kids. Q1 - Why did you or your spouse do it?

I would strongly consider it as, while it is hard work too, I think it would be best for the kids.  But I also won't consider it because I have a great fear that it would cause my husband to "check out" even more. He already doesn't pay attention to any going on with the house, yard, kids, vacations, or family and it has been a real struggle for me.  I feel I don't have a partner to help plan or tackle anything coming up in our lives.  Meanwhile, he is not like that at work or with his parents or with friends he wants to impress.

DH would like me to stay at home, but because he feels it would be best way to run the household smoothly. I feel it would build greater resentment, I already do close to everything and have tried various tactics to get him more involved but he just isn't. He doesn't even make time to talk about decisions or deadlines we have coming up (e.g. plan 4 of july trip, his parents want to visit for 2-3 weeks, summer camp or not, what lawn service, etc.).

Q2 - What would you do if you were me? [/quote]

Does doing double duty make you feel better? Then keep doing it.

Looks ridiculous to me, especially when you have no good excuse for doing that.[/quote]

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