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[quote=Anonymous]So my husband lost his job, and we're three months away from having our third baby, and we just bought our first house two months ago.  And he's a minister, which means we are not only losing his livelihood, but we're losing our Church community. A place our two children adore and are adored and feel safe, and where they have been for most of their lives.  It's a total mess.  Most of the congregation doesn't know, but the Board does.  He doesn't leave until the end of the church year - in June.  So for Easter Sunday, we were all there, and I kept having to try not to weep.  I can't imagine each weekend continuing there like that.

We moved here for him to have this job, just as we would need to move for him to have a new job.  I left my friends and a neighborhood I loved and everything I had known for 10 years.  I've struggled to make friends here. I now work from home, so I'm isolated.  BUT my eldest son, who is special needs, has found the perfect school to suit him - one that cannot be easily replicated and has ended our searching and brought us so much comfort and support.  This school is rare, and given that he's bounced from school to school every year since he was 6 months old, we desperately want him to have more than a year there.  So I think we're going to try and stay and live on my salary and the assumption that my husband can make a few extra through fill ins and other jobs.  Nothing is set yet, but that's kind of the "working plan" right now in the first phases of his job loss.

My husband is not dealing that well, understandably, so I need to be very very careful with how I present myself around him.  I think if I shared my heartbreak and fears it would just be too much for him right now, as he is already talking about how he's failed us etc.  I want to support him, especially with the news being SO fresh, but I also am just in desperate need of someone's shoulder to cry on.  He doesn't want me telling anyone yet, until we have some time to wrap our minds around it and for him to feel strong enough to face the fact that he was fired.  In the meantime, I'm trying so hard to be cheerful, but I'm devastated and anxious and completely thrown off balance.

I guess I mostly needed an anonymous place to vent, but if anyone has dealt with supporting their spouse through something while shouldering how it impacts them, I'd love for you to share your wisdom.  I got some great advice before when it first hit just about how to initially cope with the financial loss and everything, so hopefully this will also give me some good support.  Thank you.[/quote]

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