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[quote=Anonymous]I'm thinking ahead, I know, but in the past we've gone to my ILs house for Christmas because I am not Christian and they are.  They're a small family and there is a crazy aunt involved who won't travel the four hours to visit us (she's scared of the traffic, and we've offered solutions like train, bus, meeting her an hour away so that one of us can drive her car in, having her visit with friends who will drive her, etc.) but wants to see us at Christmas.  Anyway, it's been a big hassle visiting them ever since we had DS because, you know, it's a pain traveling with a toddler, and also because they live in a really small town and DS gets really antsy at their house (DH never wants to go out and do anything, and DS and I get super bored - this Christmas I had to basically BEG him to tell us how to get to the closest playground since it was so nice outside and DS needed to run around).  This year, we'll have a new baby that will be about 5 months old around Christmas time and I really, really don't want to travel, plus I don't think I'll be able to take much time off after maternity leave.  Oh, and I didn't mention, DH's parents are very involved in their church so they won't want to miss their church services to come to us over Christmas (but maybe they can come before or after and bring crazy Aunt with them).  I also think we're our own family now and we should start our own Christmas traditions.  How do I gently broach the subject with DH and ILs that I want to stay home for Christmas this year?  I feel like I made a bad mistake by setting this precedent every year since we've been married (10 years) and now it's just an assumption that it will happen.

My family is SO flexible about travel plans, doesn't need to work around any holidays, this has never been an issue for me!![/quote]

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